Minggu, 18 September 2011
It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it
happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why
some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.
You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and
causes, but you will never do anymore that take the life out
of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of
the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body,
love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions
and commonalities that two people share. And just as life
itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the
coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that
cannot be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of
love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and
celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we
all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you,
celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on.
When this happen to young people, they too often try to
grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a
gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of
love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving,
they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather
than accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.
They want answers where there are no answers. They
want to know what is wrong in them that makes the other
person no longer love them, or try to get their love to change,
thinking that if some small things were different, love would
bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if
they go far away and start a new life, their love will grow.
They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But
there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they
accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.
You need to know this about love, and accept it. You need to
treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in
love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with
yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't
choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find yourself someone in love with you but you don't
love him back, feel honored that love came and called at your
door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not
take advantage; do not cause pain. How you deal with love
is how you deal with yourself. All our hearts feel the same
pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it nor to
assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a
meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All
you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it
comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person
who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it
poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.
There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
without love, they understand love only as a need. They see
their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and
they begin to look at love as something that flows to them
rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as
their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead
become someone who seeks love. They forget that the
secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to
grow only by giving it away.
Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its
own season, its own reason for coming and going. You
cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can
only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it
comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or
from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and
there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and
always will be a mystery....
Senin, 05 September 2011
During Ramadhan , every year we all keep our fast for full one month. We stay away from food and water and sometimes we keep our fast even if we did not get up sehar.
Then why is it after Ramadhan , just thinking about having additional 6 days of fasting seems so hard ?
Why is it because we think that we would not be able to do it and we do not even try.
Yes , we all know , not many people keep these fasts , but why do we want to be among counted those people ?
Concept of keeping additonal 6 Days of Fasting
Do you know that Islamic Calendar contains 354/ 355 days ?
Allah swt knows that having fast for 1 day is very tough. So its because of bounty of Allah swt that He gives reward of 10 days of fasting by just having 1 day of fast.
So , 29 or 30 days of Ramadhan X 10 days of reward for each day fast = 290 or 300 days of equivalent reward.
That still leaves approx another 60 days to complete 1 year.
So , 60 divided by 10 = 6 days left of fasting.
Just by having additional 6 days of fasting we would get the reward as if we have fasted for 1 FULL YEAR,,,
Thats not all…
Know the bounty of Allah SWT ,
He is Most Merciful , Most Forgiving , Most Kind ,
Much we can Ever Think and Imagine.
Allah swt , just does not gives us the reward for fasting 6 additional days equalivent of 1 year ,
but He multiplies not by 10 or 20 .
But He rewards us for as if we have fasted for Full Lifetime
"Whoever fasts Ramadaan then follows it with six days of Shawwaal, it will be as if he fasted for a lifetime"
(Muslim, no. 1984),
What are the virtues of fasting the 6 days of Shawwal ?
Abu Ayub al-Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Allaahs Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: “He who observed the fast of Ramadan and then followed it with six (fasts) of Shawwal, it would be as if he fasted perpetually.”
(perpetually means: lifetime)
(Sahih Muslim, Book 006, Number 2614)
Thawbaan (may Allaah be pleased with him), the freed slave of Allaahs Messenger (peace be upon him), related that the Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) said, “Whoever fasts six days after the Festival of Breaking the Fast completes the reward of a year, for whoever brings a good deed gets [the reward of] ten similar.”
Sunan Ibn Maajah, Vol. 3, p. 38, Number 1715;
Tips on how to keep 6 days of Fasting of Shawaal
Shawaal has just started , only a week has gone by.
You still have the time to do it.
Do not leave it for next year for who knows this might have been your last ramadhan.
Do not let shaitaan waswas trouble you for it is the shaitaan does not want you to get the reward of fasting equivalent of lifetime.
1: Just wake up for sehar tomorrow and keep 1 day of fast.
After completing 1 day of fast, it would seem easy and it is but natural we would automatically be keeping remaining 5 days of fasting.
For the Ladies ...
For the Ladies who have missed their fasts due to their monthly period , they have 2 options to do this ...
For example a lady misses 6 days of fasting during the month of Ramadhan
option A : She can 1st start by keeping those missed days of Ramadhan fasts and then continue to keep another 6 days to complete the 1 year formula. But all those fasting has to be done during this month of Shawaal.
option B : She can delay those missed fasts of Ramadhan and start the 6 days of fasting of Shawaal. However she will have to complete those missed days fasts of Ramadhan before the next Ramadhan.
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